Thursday, June 17, 2010

One year (it was either Father's Day or my dad's birthday, one of the two) my Mom called my brother and I who were at home playing Playstation like a bunch of lazy bums and said that we should probably call my Dad and wish him a happy Father's Day/birthday. This was at like 9:00 at night. Wow. What jerks right? It's taking me being a Dad to really realize that birthdays and holidays are meant to be days spent with the people you love. Now, I knew that before but I was always in a rush to get done with the family stuff so I could hurry out and let people, who at the time I thought were important, buy me drinks all night.

This Sunday is Father's day. Unfortunately I have had to make a decision as to not see mine because he will be down at the lake with my Mom and some of their friends. Father's day is also now my day where my family wants to be with me. Should make me feel good right? Instead I feel bad because I am not going to see my Dad. He's an hour and a half away and I'm not going to see him.

Why is it becoming harder and harder to make plans that work for everyone? Our family is growing and that in itself is wonderful, but... It makes making plans that much more difficult. When I was a kid, my Mom's side of the family had a family reunion every year. There would be people there that I had never met before in my life. They were all somehow related and they all got together this one day to see each other. Are we coming to that!? My Mom and Dad are both one of 11 children. I have over 60 cousins and we were all pretty close growing up. It must have been really difficult to make it to every family function but I didn't see the difficulty in it as I just jumped in the car and went where they took us!

Now I see it though. It's tough. In the end, I hope my Dad understands. It's nothing against him. If it were up to me, I'd be with he and my Brother (who is celebrating his first Father's Day this year.) on the golf course Sunday morning like we used to do EVERY Sunday morning years ago. Times have changed but my love, respect, and my appreciation for my Dad never will.

Happy Father's Day Dad. I love you.